If others do not respond to your love with love,
Look into your own benevolence;
If others fail to respond to your attempts 
to govern them with order,
Look into your own wisdom;
If other do not return your courtesy,
Look into your own respect.
In other words,
Look into yourself whenever you fail
to achieve your purpose.

- Mencius


Responsive Communication
Patterns for Making Sense


Ron Scollon
Suzie Wong Scollon



This website is based on the 1986 book, first published by Black Current Press, Haines, Alaska.  It contains all of the original text.  The structure has been changed and images added.





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